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I Almost Lost My Life Self Diagnosing with Dr. Google

I share the complete story of my recent health scare on Vivid TalkRadio. I’ll tell you some of the back story here and let you know what I learned. After suffering with uterine fibroids and anemia for over two decades, cold, headaches, fatigue, and pain were common. The truth of the matter was I was dying a slow death and did not know it. I was too distracted to notice.

As soon as I stepped in, I blacked out, but I remember saying, “I do not want to die here. Felicia, get up.”

I was a speaker at a weekend conference. I showed up. Popped a few pills. And hit the stage. I had started, what I thought was my cycle. However, I was actually hemorrhaging, but thinking, “I’ll go to the doctor on Monday.” When Monday came around, I had gone through 45 overnight pads. I stepped out of bed, took two steps, and everything inside of me fell on the floor. I panicked, but my assumption is my adrenaline was flowing. I heard my heart beating in my head. Later I learned that my heart wasn’t getting the blood that it needed, so I was headed for a cardiac episode.I had gone through 45 overnight pads over the weekend. My body was responding to a case of severe anemia. My son was at home, and I didn’t want him to see the scene, so I managed to clean it up and get in the shower. As soon as I stepped in, I blacked out, but I remember saying, “I do not want to die here. Felicia, get up.” Somehow, I kicked the shower door open, crawled out, and called out to my son. He found me, got me together, and rushed me to the hospital.

Miraculously, I walked into the emergency room under my own power. My palms and the insides of my eyes were snow white. Turns out my hemoglobin was at 3 (12-15 is normal). My platelets were 8 (of 145-450). The doctor informed me that an emergency blood transfusion and an emergency platelet transfusion were required to literally save my life. She could not understand how I was conscious or even talking.

If you’re reading this, and you’ve been self-diagnosing, I want you to make an appointment because this is not a game. There are too many of us dying still young.

I spent a week in the Intensive Care Unit. If I never heard the Holy Spirit, if I never knew what God has for me, he set me right on top of my purpose. He made me sit there and think about it. He said, “I’m entrusting you with a vision. But I can’t even communicate with you because your temple is sick, and I cannot live in it.” I think what we miss as visionaries and leaders is where the vision came from. We miss that in order for us to get to the level of success that God has planned for us, we have to take care of ourselves. God needs our temples to be in order. If you’re reading this, and you’ve been self-diagnosing, I want you to make an appointment because this is not a game. There are too many of us dying still young.

If we don't have the physical, mental, and spiritual capacity–as leaders and visionaries–to carry out the vision, we won't be a true representation of God.Click To Tweet

The first thing you have to do is make a decision that you want to live and see all of the hard work come to fruition. You want to be around to see how your legacy impacts others. You want to be around to see how the vision that God gave you made others’ lives better. You want to see that happen. Everything about your body is scripturally based. God says in 1 Corinthians, “Don’t you know that your body is a temple? That the Holy Spirit dwells inside of you? You don’t belong to yourself because I had to pay a price for that. So, here’s the deal, since I paid a price for that, it doesn’t belong to you. I’m entrusting you to take care of it.” This tells me three things: 1) You have to make a decision, 2) You have to become informed about who’s you are and who you are, and 3) You must move forward in the change. We’re always evolving. We’re always growing. We’re always learning.

In that hospital bed, I had to make a decision. I was clear that the decision that I made there would affect the rest of my life, and it would impact the vision that God had given me. He was asking me, “Can I trust you? I’ve given you the warning. I need to see that you’re adhering to it.” So, I’ve made a decision. The Bible says that God worked for six days, and on the seventh day, he rested. I find it interesting that he put that in the same chapter as the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20). If it was that important, wouldn’t that mean that you should be doing that too? God places a high level of importance on rest because we are judged by the fruit that we bear. If we don’t have the physical, mental, and spiritual capacity–as leaders and visionaries–to carry out the vision, we won’t be a true representation of God. I’ve made the decision that I’m not going to tell someone to do something that I’m not doing. I’m going to rest. I’m going to take care of my temple. I’m going to make the changes that I need to make so that I can be pleasing to God, and he can help me carry out the vision. I want to hear him and do and live in my purpose. When God drops you on top of your pain, there lies your purpose, and that has changed my life.

When something is extremely pain–like a near-death experience–that means that you’re right on top of the purpose that God put you here for. Let me tell you how God had to deal with me on that. I’m 46. I was raised in a time when my parents said, “What goes on in our house, stays in our house. We don’t let everybody know our business. You have to put a strong front up because if you appear weak, people won’t trust you. They won’t want to do business with you.” Though I was raised with that thinking, now I’m an adult. I can change that way of thinking. God dealt with me and said, “This is your purpose, so I don’t need you to do what you would normally do. When people look at you, they see one thing, but I need you to speak out because I need them to see me. I need them to see the work that I’m going to do and how I deliver you because so many of  my children are doing the same thing that you were doing. I’m charging you with speaking out.”

That was the hardest thing. Trust me in this moment. I have never felt so sure about something than what we’re talking about right now. As I began to educate myself, I see that 1 in 4 people self-diagnosis. Over 60% of those self diagnoses are wrong. You have to realize that the Internet is not the gospel. You have to know the question to ask the Internet. If you can’t ask the correct question, your answers will be questionable. Now, you’re stressed (over your incorrect conclusion), buying over the counter remedies that are just applying a bandaid, and getting worse. You must wake up.

Make the distinction between “a” vision and God’s vision. Proverbs 29: 18 says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish…” It’s talking about the revealed knowledge of God. What is he revealing to you about him, about you, about the life that you should be giving yourself to? What has he put you on this earth to do? Go hard after that. Part of it is owning businesses and having the wealth to invest in each other and in the kingdom, but you have to be clear about where your vision is coming from.

We’re so distracted. Everything is at our fingertips. I want to encourage you to shut everything off for just one day. That day needs to be your day of rest. You need to completely unplug. Hear some birds chirping, be one with yourself so that you can think. If you’re constantly surfing social media, on the Internet, or watching your favorites shows or entire seasons, unplug. Give yourself priority. I’ve never been more serious about anything in my life. In that quiet moment, so much can be revealed to you, but if you do not take the time to be still, you will never hear the promise. You will never hear the next step. You will never understand where the open door is coming from because you’re distracted by the trappings of the world.

Dr. Jada Moore-Ruffin

You have to decide to be well before your vision kills you.

If you’re working yourself to death, you and your vision are being killed. When you die, it dies. Your purpose has been designed and assigned, and you have to be available physically, mentally, and emotionally. You have to be present for it to happen.

On Vivid TalkRadio this week, our guest, Felicia Phillips, shared the gripping story of her near-death experience with uterine fibroids after developing a habit of self-diagnosing. In the case of fibroids, it is possible that you may have a genetic predisposition. I recognize that sometimes our ignorance about our bodies and our health is just that–a lack of knowledge. You may know that there’s a problem, but not understand the full depth and breadth of that problem and what it could lead to. We in the medical community have a responsibility to ensure that we’re communicating at a level that really explains what you’re working with. Whatever the case, I want to empower you to take doctor visits to the next level for your own sake. Why not ask, “What does that mean? What could that mean? What would happen if I just take the wait-and-watch-and-see approach? What signs should I look for? Is there anything that I can do?” A lot of times you relinquish your power because you just don’t know, or you haven’t taken the time to take responsibility for your health–and then take action.

In the African-American community, fibroids are widespread–even asymptomatic fibroids (ones without symptoms). Even given that fact, we have to empower ourselves so that we’re good stewards over what God has given us. Often, fibroids will progress to symptoms–outward notifications that there is a problem. We have to make sure we don’t explain them away and dismiss them too quickly, “I just like ice.” You have to make a decision that you’re going to get to the bottom of the first signs, even talk to someone who can help you do that. We can miss an opportunity to cultivate wellness because we’re waiting on the symptoms of an illness to further manifest.

Just because your mother, sister, friend may have all had hysterectomies, realize that there was a very long process that lead to surgery. Surgery is not the only option. You can change our diet and your lifestyle. A lot of health issues you may be experiencing–whether fibroids, diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, skin disorders–are largely preventable and oftentimes very manageable for the sake of longevity and a better quality of life. The foods that you’re eating, and I’m not even advocating that you should only eat organic or raw foods, but I do want to bring to the forefront that a lot of what you’re consuming is just poor quality foods. Many are not even food. They are food products, especially fast foods, foods that have been prepared for the shelf and in restaurants for heat and serve. They contain by-products and preservatives to improve their shelf life. The body sees these as foreign, and it’s unable to digest something that it does not recognize as consumable. So, it has to figure out what to do with it. This is how we categorize a toxin. These buzz words are out there in there air, but this gives you some context. These foreign items get into your blood systems and digestive tracts and begin to alter how your body functions. Thus, creating a dysfunction in an effort to try to process something that it does not recognize.

Do you spend more money on your car than you do on your body? Even your car gets premium gas. It boils down to priorities, education, and making a decision.

The introduction of toxins into your body can be the root of many auto-immune disorders, many inflammatory diseases–all because our bodies are trying to do something they just weren’t designed to do. Our bodies are smart. They want to work on our behalf. They want to do a good job for us, and they will continue to try to do that until they hit a wall. Let me tell you how Cancer works. We all have Cancer cells. However, there are modulators that turn them on and off. When we consume things, lead lifestyles, or are subject to stressors–whether from the environment, the products we’re using–that tell those Cancer cells to turn on. That’s what causes the overgrowth of cells that were never designed to be activated and multiplied to that degree.

The good news is that we have a say-so in a lot of what we’re experiencing in our health. We just have to gain the knowledge and then adhere to what we learn. Food is purposely being created to induce an addictive response. It’s being perpetuated, but we have to wake up. We’re so focused on what we want to do and achieve, that we’re ignoring the signs as we see them. That vision that we think we’re going after really could be influenced by other factors, like toxins that we’re putting into our bodies because we’re not slowing down and paying attention. Carrying an extra 30 pounds of weight has a profound negative impact on our brain function. So often, the investment in our health, in ourselves is absent. Studies have shown that 1 in 4 people self-diagnose, and 60% of them are wrong. We are driving around in BMWs and Land Rovers. How many people would venture a guess about that random sound or issue that is causing their engine lights to come on? Better yet, how many Mercedes do we see in the drive through at McDonald’s? Do you spend more money on your car than you do on your body? Even your car gets premium gas. It boils down to priorities, education, and making a decision.

You have to make a decision to be present and functioning and healthy and whole to actually see your vision come to pass.

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