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Vivid Talk™ Radio | Felicia Phillips, The Pinkpreneur Network

I Almost Lost My Life Self Diagnosing with Dr. Google

I share the complete story of my recent health scare on Vivid TalkRadio. I’ll tell you some of the back story here and let you know what I learned. After suffering with uterine fibroids and anemia for over two decades, cold, headaches, fatigue, and pain were common. The truth of the matter was I was dying a slow death and did not know it. I was too distracted to notice.

As soon as I stepped in, I blacked out, but I remember saying, “I do not want to die here. Felicia, get up.”

I was a speaker at a weekend conference. I showed up. Popped a few pills. And hit the stage. I had started, what I thought was my cycle. However, I was actually hemorrhaging, but thinking, “I’ll go to the doctor on Monday.” When Monday came around, I had gone through 45 overnight pads. I stepped out of bed, took two steps, and everything inside of me fell on the floor. I panicked, but my assumption is my adrenaline was flowing. I heard my heart beating in my head. Later I learned that my heart wasn’t getting the blood that it needed, so I was headed for a cardiac episode.I had gone through 45 overnight pads over the weekend. My body was responding to a case of severe anemia. My son was at home, and I didn’t want him to see the scene, so I managed to clean it up and get in the shower. As soon as I stepped in, I blacked out, but I remember saying, “I do not want to die here. Felicia, get up.” Somehow, I kicked the shower door open, crawled out, and called out to my son. He found me, got me together, and rushed me to the hospital.

Miraculously, I walked into the emergency room under my own power. My palms and the insides of my eyes were snow white. Turns out my hemoglobin was at 3 (12-15 is normal). My platelets were 8 (of 145-450). The doctor informed me that an emergency blood transfusion and an emergency platelet transfusion were required to literally save my life. She could not understand how I was conscious or even talking.

If you’re reading this, and you’ve been self-diagnosing, I want you to make an appointment because this is not a game. There are too many of us dying still young.

I spent a week in the Intensive Care Unit. If I never heard the Holy Spirit, if I never knew what God has for me, he set me right on top of my purpose. He made me sit there and think about it. He said, “I’m entrusting you with a vision. But I can’t even communicate with you because your temple is sick, and I cannot live in it.” I think what we miss as visionaries and leaders is where the vision came from. We miss that in order for us to get to the level of success that God has planned for us, we have to take care of ourselves. God needs our temples to be in order. If you’re reading this, and you’ve been self-diagnosing, I want you to make an appointment because this is not a game. There are too many of us dying still young.

If we don't have the physical, mental, and spiritual capacity–as leaders and visionaries–to carry out the vision, we won't be a true representation of God.Click To Tweet

The first thing you have to do is make a decision that you want to live and see all of the hard work come to fruition. You want to be around to see how your legacy impacts others. You want to be around to see how the vision that God gave you made others’ lives better. You want to see that happen. Everything about your body is scripturally based. God says in 1 Corinthians, “Don’t you know that your body is a temple? That the Holy Spirit dwells inside of you? You don’t belong to yourself because I had to pay a price for that. So, here’s the deal, since I paid a price for that, it doesn’t belong to you. I’m entrusting you to take care of it.” This tells me three things: 1) You have to make a decision, 2) You have to become informed about who’s you are and who you are, and 3) You must move forward in the change. We’re always evolving. We’re always growing. We’re always learning.

In that hospital bed, I had to make a decision. I was clear that the decision that I made there would affect the rest of my life, and it would impact the vision that God had given me. He was asking me, “Can I trust you? I’ve given you the warning. I need to see that you’re adhering to it.” So, I’ve made a decision. The Bible says that God worked for six days, and on the seventh day, he rested. I find it interesting that he put that in the same chapter as the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20). If it was that important, wouldn’t that mean that you should be doing that too? God places a high level of importance on rest because we are judged by the fruit that we bear. If we don’t have the physical, mental, and spiritual capacity–as leaders and visionaries–to carry out the vision, we won’t be a true representation of God. I’ve made the decision that I’m not going to tell someone to do something that I’m not doing. I’m going to rest. I’m going to take care of my temple. I’m going to make the changes that I need to make so that I can be pleasing to God, and he can help me carry out the vision. I want to hear him and do and live in my purpose. When God drops you on top of your pain, there lies your purpose, and that has changed my life.

When something is extremely pain–like a near-death experience–that means that you’re right on top of the purpose that God put you here for. Let me tell you how God had to deal with me on that. I’m 46. I was raised in a time when my parents said, “What goes on in our house, stays in our house. We don’t let everybody know our business. You have to put a strong front up because if you appear weak, people won’t trust you. They won’t want to do business with you.” Though I was raised with that thinking, now I’m an adult. I can change that way of thinking. God dealt with me and said, “This is your purpose, so I don’t need you to do what you would normally do. When people look at you, they see one thing, but I need you to speak out because I need them to see me. I need them to see the work that I’m going to do and how I deliver you because so many of  my children are doing the same thing that you were doing. I’m charging you with speaking out.”

That was the hardest thing. Trust me in this moment. I have never felt so sure about something than what we’re talking about right now. As I began to educate myself, I see that 1 in 4 people self-diagnosis. Over 60% of those self diagnoses are wrong. You have to realize that the Internet is not the gospel. You have to know the question to ask the Internet. If you can’t ask the correct question, your answers will be questionable. Now, you’re stressed (over your incorrect conclusion), buying over the counter remedies that are just applying a bandaid, and getting worse. You must wake up.

Make the distinction between “a” vision and God’s vision. Proverbs 29: 18 says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish…” It’s talking about the revealed knowledge of God. What is he revealing to you about him, about you, about the life that you should be giving yourself to? What has he put you on this earth to do? Go hard after that. Part of it is owning businesses and having the wealth to invest in each other and in the kingdom, but you have to be clear about where your vision is coming from.

We’re so distracted. Everything is at our fingertips. I want to encourage you to shut everything off for just one day. That day needs to be your day of rest. You need to completely unplug. Hear some birds chirping, be one with yourself so that you can think. If you’re constantly surfing social media, on the Internet, or watching your favorites shows or entire seasons, unplug. Give yourself priority. I’ve never been more serious about anything in my life. In that quiet moment, so much can be revealed to you, but if you do not take the time to be still, you will never hear the promise. You will never hear the next step. You will never understand where the open door is coming from because you’re distracted by the trappings of the world.

Get a vision for every area of your visionary lifestyle

I have this unique ability to see big, giant, colossal, ridiculously huge projects–equal parts artist and architect. There is the most intense level of satisfaction as a big picture is defined and comes to life for others to understand and embrace. I’m a visionary. If there’s a problem to be solved, I’m like a moth to a flame. I have to try to solve it. I’m a visionary. Whenever I’m asked, “What are you working on?” I have to giggle before I respond because I realize that if I tell the truth, most of the time it will sound preposterous. Imagine the comfort I derived from the definition of the word visionary.

ADJECTIVE: given to or characterized by fanciful, not presently workable, or unpractical ideas, views, or schemes; NOUN: a person of unusually keen foresight; a person who is given to audacious, highly speculative, or impractical ideas or schemes; dreamer – dictionary.com

Ambiguity is my friend. Possibility and Purpose are her cousins. Even if you can’t agree with those sentiments for yourself wholeheartedly, the Bible clearly says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish…” So, that tells me that if I am not happy with any area of life, it’s because I don’t have a vision for better. I like the part of the definition that says “not presently workable”. Your vision, by its very nature, will not be workable this very moment. That’s why it’s a vision. It’s a big picture.

Vision gives you the spark you need to endure any test, trial, or trauma. In every life, there will be many. Click To Tweet

You can say, “I want a better job,” but you have to define what “better” is. It’s that blurry picture way out on the horizon. I imagine those dream sequences in movies. They are glowing and idealistic. So, even though your vision is impractical, it serves a vital purpose. Habakkuk 2: 2 says, “Write the vision, and make it plain.” Vision gives you the spark you need to endure any test, trial, or trauma. In every life, there will be many. Statistics for business success tells us that only 20% of new businesses will make it past their first year, and after five years, half of those will go out of business (usatoday.com). That tells me that there’s more failure than success, and any entrepreneur can attest that they are changed in the process.

This has proven true in my own life, and I have seen it in the lives of entrepreneurs around me. What’s most astounding is that those same people (me included) keep going and going and going. It’s truly a way of life–the visionary lifestyle. That’s the reason for Vivid TalkRadio, a featured Blogtalk Radio Show, Vivid TalkLIVE, a live streaming video show, and Vivid Magazine, available in print, digital, and online versions, to cultivate the visionary lifestyle. You need to get a vision for every area of life. We have summed it us as your inside, your outside, and your surroundings. Making your vision “plain” is a process. I have defined it as the V.I.V.I.D.Model for growth and development. It serves as the foundation for everything we do, and we are bringing together other entrepreneurs and visionaries to coach you through the process.

As the Principal of Adam Red, a branding agency, and Better Life Coach, I am most concerned about the core–your inside. You will find me talking about faith and identity as a foundation because without a vision of who we are and where we ultimately come from, success will be fleeting. Dr. Jada Moore-Ruffin and I connected through a women’s network. After 20 years in family practice, she launched REAL Weight Loss + Wellness, and as a Wellness Coach, she wants to help you get a vision for your outside. You need a vision for the physical body that carries you through this life. Katherine Jordan and I met through The Pinkpreneur Network. She is the owner of The Savvy ID where she is the Creative Director offering home staging for real estate agents and interior styling for female entrepreneurs. Katherine will help you get a vision for your surroundings. The environments that you create for yourself matter in this visionary journey. We decided to collaborate so that we could create, execute, and sustain something bigger than ourselves. Hear about our visionary lifestyles here, and tell us about yours for a chance to win Vivid swag!

Dr. Jada Moore-Ruffin

The Entrepreneur’s Struggle Boils Down to a Decision

The precursor to our first episode of Vivid TalkRadio was my answer to Co-Host Gwen‘s question, “How are you doing?” I was at a point where I was seriously feeling the pains of being a new business owner. The overhead at my startup, REAL Weight Loss + Wellness, seemed to be taking over, emails coming by the page full, employee out sick, and I’m like, “Really? Is this gonna work out after all? What would happen if I gave up and went back to the ‘safe and steady’ world of getting a job?” My ego would eventually recover, but so much more was at stake. The debt I incurred would most certainly require a REALLY good gig. My family has sacrificed so much already. I have other people depending on me for their livelihood (my great team, who has not missed a step in this visionary journey). But most importantly, the decision to give up would mean I would never get to see the vision God intended when He planted the seed and started this meager bumper garden. At that moment, I didn’t have a choice. I had to make a decision.

I said to myself, “Look, you gotta make a decision. Either you are going to lose, or you are going to win. It’s up to you.”

Choices are options waiting for selection. Chocolate or vanilla? Tie or no tie? Burger or salad? We make choices every day–often without much contemplation. However, a decision very often requires you to create your own set of options or surmise possible outcomes. If I decide to go back to school and get that advanced degree, that may allow me to earn more income to meet a personal goal. If you decide to go to counseling in an effort to save your marriage, your kids could get to live with the benefits of both parents in their lives each day. Obviously, decisions take way more contemplation than a choice because we have to determine what’s at stake.

'I never lose, either I win, or I learn.' – Nelson MandelaClick To TweetSo, after much self-talk, cheerleading, mantras and serious prayer, I had a revelation. I said to myself, “Look, you gotta make a decision. Either you are going to lose, or you are going to win. It’s up to you.” This was not a choice, because I knew deep inside that either way there was going to be some type of aftermath. So no, the choice thing was not about picking. It was about determining in my mind that my decision would result in an intended outcome. Now, just how that looks, only time will tell. So, that day I posted on Facebook Live. (I make rare appearances when really compelled and the spirit hits me that somebody else may need this too.) I gave a little bit of me to the universe. It was a declaration that I had decided to win.

When that happened, things began to shift. The problems, setbacks and annoying issues didn’t stop (no they did not), but my approach was new. I decided that no matter what, I am winning. I am a winner. I am often reminded of my favorite quote, by the legendary, Nelson Mandela. It goes like this, “I never lose, either I win, or I learn.”

Is it time for you to make a decision? What decision do you need to make to take your life and your vision to the next level? Reply in the comments section below.

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